So far, parenthood isn't what you expected.
You’re unshowered and exhausted; you don’t even know what day it is.
The baby is finally asleep, but you can’t rest. You’re awake, watching him closely, making sure he’s still breathing, and knowing that in another hour, you’ll be up again. Because there are no breaks now that you’re a parent.
You glance down the hall toward the nursery you so carefully constructed while you were expecting. Sadness washes over you as you remember the joy and hope you felt for bringing this baby home.
You don't feel any of that now. Instead, you feel dread. Because tomorrow will come, and you'll still be exhausted; you'll still be feeding around the clock with no semblance of normalcy; you'll still feel like you're on the outside looking in on your old life, watching everyone else do normal things and lead normal lives.
You feel alone.
You feel guilty for not feeling happy.
You feel like your partner is a million miles away.
You feel like you are a million miles away.
Sometimes you feel like you're not cut out for parenthood.
A part of you wonders: Is this postpartum depression?
But then you tell yourself it's not so bad; it's not at a level that warrants talking to someone about it. And so you keep white-knuckling each day, hoping things will get better on their own.
You're not alone, and you don't have to keep feeling this way.
Whether you're dealing with overwhelming difficulties or just struggling some of the time — I can help.
The truth is that Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMAD's) are a whole lot more than just postpartum depression, and they can look different from person to person — they can even look and feel different from day to day.
Maybe some days you're making it, even feeling okay — and other days, the sadness or anxiety or intense and scary thoughts feel all-consuming, like you're drowning.
It can be really hard to reach out for help when part of you keeps telling yourself some version of the following: This isn't SO bad; I should be able to figure this out. I felt okay yesterday, so this can't be postpartum depression. All parents feel like this — this is normal. If I ask for help, people will think I'm a bad parent.
Unfortunately, these thoughts keep people just like you from getting the help they need, and PMAD's remain severely under-diagnosed.
Almost everyone will experience the "baby blues" for up to two weeks after delivery — but for one out of every five people, these difficulties persist, warranting extra support.
And PMAD's don’t just affect the person who gave birth; one in ten partners will suffer from PMAD’s.
You can feel better, and I can help.
I create a safe space, where it's okay to talk about your experience — even the thoughts and feelings that scare you or make you feel ashamed.
Together, we'll come up with a plan to help you adjust to and thrive within your new normal. We'll figure out what's working and what's not, and I'll share tools to help you navigate difficult moments and feelings.
I’m a Licensed Psychologist and hold a Certificate in Perinatal Mental Health (PMH-C) from Postpartum Support International. I’m a also mother to young children. This means that research-based best practices will guide our work, and I also bring first-hand experience of this challenging life transition.
I also have specialized trauma training (Brainspotting), which can be particularly helpful when your baby’s birth was difficult or scary, your baby had to stay in the NICU, or you experienced trauma earlier in your life, and it’s feeling heavier now that you’ve become a parent.
You can feel better, and and you can find joy in motherhood; you just have to take the first step and reach out to someone who knows how to help.
Click here or call 919-344-1296 to schedule your free 15-minute phone consultation where we'll see if working together is a good fit for your needs. Take that first step toward feeling better and finding the happy moments in motherhood!
Services for New Parents:
Whether you’re suffering from a Perinatal Mood or Anxiety Disorder or you’re just needing support as you make this huge life transition, therapy can help you:
build a healthy support network
feel happier and worry less
change unhelpful thought patterns
make sense of a difficult birth
take care of YOU while caring for your baby
find balance and comfort in your new role as a parent
No child care? No worries; bring baby along!
Available in office in Cary, NC, outdoors via walk & talk sessions, or via teletherapy (if you live in NC or VA)
You’ve got a new baby. You need support, maybe more than you've ever needed it before.
But it can be incredibly difficult during those first weeks to reach out for support — let alone get yourself and baby dressed and out of the house for a therapy appointment.
No worries; I’ll come to you! We’ll do an initial assessment and then therapy from the comfort of your home, and when necessary, I can get you connected with referrals to related services (such as lactation consultation, physical therapy, and psychiatry), many of whom will also come to your home!
Available in Cary, Holly Springs, Durham, Fuquay-Varina, Chapel Hill, and Raleigh, NC — within a 25-mile radius of Cary, NC
Groups for New Moms & Moms-To-Be
Positive Pregnancy Support Group: (COMING SOON!) Congratulations — you’re pregnant! But maybe being pregnant hasn’t been what you expected it to be. Maybe you’re anxious about birth. Maybe you’re unsettled by the huge transition that lies ahead. Maybe you’ve got questions about how life will change (and how you will change) when baby arrives. If this sounds like you, join two therapist-moms and other mamas-to-be for our Positive Pregnancy Group.
New Mom’s Support Group: (COMING SOON!) Caring for a tiny baby can be isolating — especially if this is your first baby and you haven’t connected yet with other local moms. Bring baby and join us for coffee, conversation, and support every first and third week of the month.